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Sonia-27I moved from Iran to USA with two toddlers in worst of times. My country back home check my site was going through revolution and here in US, we were in the midst of the hostage crisis. I had the lowest self-esteem as if all these events were somehow my fault. I had to do something to support myself and my kids! I signed up to get my master degree while working full time. Some nights, I had to keep the kids in the car in school parking lot near the lab and go back and forth. I finally graduated and got a great job. I made lots of mistakes and learned a lot during these years.

I worked for corporate America for years and had a great time. I kept on moving forward to the next best thing. I got married and now had 3 children. I traveled a lot and enjoyed myself, but something was still missing. I began to take self-improvement classes and seminars and read self-help books and books on spirituality. I tried in so many ways to change myself. I had done lots of work and I was happier, but that “thing” was still missing. I quit my job to go out and sell real estate and flip properties, to be more in the creative zone. I was able to grow in this time because I had to muster the courage to let go of a secure job, a paycheck and most of all vacation time. But no, I wasn’t there yet.

Until one day I got it! Finally all the knowledge and experience came together. It had something to do with the way I was interpreting things. I remember, Dr. Wayne Dyer saying, “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change”. When you live an authentic life, you will see the real growth.

Once I started to work on this transition, I noticed that people were more attracted to my life style and sought advice. I would spend hours with family, friends, and friends of friends helping them with their issues. I had a genuine interest in people’s growth and happiness. In the process I noticed that, this is my calling.

I now work with executives, professionals, college grads, the self-employed, stay at home moms and students. It is hard for me to explain the feeling I get when I receive a call or email from a client, thanking check this site out me and telling me of their breakthroughs and how happy they are.

The best part is that I get to help others create a life of their wanting. I love my life with everything going on, in, or around it. I know who I am, what I want, and how I want to live. I want that for you. Now, that takes courage.

My Background:

I have been a great observer since I was a child. I saw people stressed and angry over something. Then I saw the smile on their faces when the problem went away. I also observed how this happiness was short lived when the next issue came about.

I always wondered: what if they knew in advance that they are mistaken? What if they knew, this problem will be solved? What if?

I grew up in a loving family who were always in a state of stress, turmoil or anger. Love to them meant to provide. Love to them meant to worry about the kids, put food on the table, and provide for us. I am grateful to them because they did the best with what they knew. I was known to be a carefree and happy child. I sang, danced, joked, painted and built things. Despite this, I was very sensitive and was great in hiding the pain which was more a concern for the people around me. I could not feel the love and always wonder “why everyone is angry?”

So, I set the course to do everything right! Study hard, work hard, participate, have fun, try not to get angry, try not to …

I set to control every “thing,” every “body” and every “situation”. Then I learned it was easier to control myself. Not tell anyone anything that may cause a reaction, be nice and kind to everyone. Give them all I can and not expect a return. Be a good wife, a good mom, a good friend, a good provider engineer, a good realtor and so on. I did REALLY good. Until I BROKE down and got sick!

You see, my body gave up. They gave me 3 to 6 months to live. As my usual self, I decided not to mention it to anyone. Not to keep a secret, but not to worry anyone and besides, I really didn’t want to have that conversation.

I decided to have a mini pity party for myself and then move on. As if I had to rush to get to the end of my life.

Then I sat down and got quiet! My whole life appeared to me like a movie. Tears started to pour not only out of my eyes, but from my whole body. I saw myself trying so hard for so many years. Breaking boundaries, swimming upstream, trying to get out of my comfort zone, keeping things in, planning, accomplishing, and then planning some more. I saw how I was frustrated with people around me who only complained and weren’t pushing themselves, who were always handed everything, ones with shallow vision of the world, the ones going for short term happiness. I heard them loving my energy, cheering me one, kindly calling me courageous, smart, and creative and constantly calling me with their problems. I noticed how I was trying hard to love up to the kind labels. I saw how I was reading one book after another, taking class after class, seminars, retreat, all to be happy. I saw myself trying to have fun when it really wasn’t. Trying to please everybody and it was not working. I saw myself lonely! I was tired. I was broken. “I” was not!

Then, I got the message. No voice, no out of body experience. I just got the message. BE YOURSELF! YOU ARE JUST FINE!

But, who was I? How do you define fine? What if I decide I am fine and I make a mistake? And, I stopped!

I declared! I am going to be myself. I don’t know what it is, but I will figure it out. Yes, I am smart. I am going to be myself, even if it is nothing like what I had in mind before and may not be liked by many. Yes, I am courageous to do just that. I am going to be fine. I don’t know what it means or how I will do it, but yes, I have the courage to be fine. I have the courage to end the chase!

And, I did.

I would love to work with you to create the life you truly desire!

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Here’s to your happy life!

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Sonia Shafazand

Life Coach & Mentor to Individuals Who Want a Better, Happier Life NOW, Not Later!

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